Triggers are designed to make something happen. The most common trigger people think of is the one on a gun. Once the trigger is pulled, the bullet is thrust from the chamber. People like guns have triggers that when properly pulled expel a range of emotions from the chambers of our hearts. The trick is knowing how to control that bullet of emotion once it is released from the chamber. Do we control our emotions like a marksman aims his gun to hit a target? Or do we shoot them into the crowd not caring who we hit? We, I at least use excuses when an unmarked bullet of emotion comes shooting out of the chamber. If this would not have happened I would not have reacted this way. Not knowing or taking the time to realize that that emotional bullet just hit a crowd of innocent bystanders. So the question comes: How do I control these bullets of insecurity, love, disappoint etc? The answer for me is found in Philippians 4:7 “And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” When I feel my emotional bullets heading toward the chamber, it’s God’s peace that surrounds and comforts me. Once I have yielded myself to God and allowed Him to have my triggers I become a new person. My old triggers come subject to God’s power. He gives me His peace and guards my heart and mind from the emotional warfare that is taking place. Joshua doesn’t have to deal with everything alone anymore. The Holy Ghost becomes the marksman in the situation, helping me to push through the negative emotion and realize that God has me covered with a peace that only He can give.
What is fear? Why does it hold so many people captive? How do we overcome the fears of life? I believe these three questions have puzzled the great philosophers of many generations. My personal definition of fear is the uncertainty of what’s to come. So I’ve answered my first question about what is fear to Joshua. Fear reminds me of a straight jacket. It holds you tight, restrains you is a better way to say it. Fear holds you captive because it trips you up on the what ifs. Example: What if I apply for a position but do not get chosen, what then? So fear holds me captive because of the uncertainty it brings and the what ifs that come along with it. How do we overcome fear is the last question. First we have to identify what our fear is and why it holds us captive. Taking the issue to God is always the best answer. God tells us that he has not given us the spirit of fear but of power love and a sound mind. When we have the sound mind fear and his sidekick doubt have no place. God also tells us that He is strength in our weakness. So in the event that fear creeps in my mind the God in me will stand up and cast the spirit of fear out. My faith in God should be stronger than fear. We should always walk by faith and not sight. Fear will show us vivid picture of everything that can go wrong; but my faith should override those visions and give me the strength I need to keep pushing toward the expected end. Now is the time to be fearless! I have identified what fear is to me and how to overcome it. Now all of the uncertainty, doubt and what ifs I feel can be turned over to God. I will constantly remind myself that God is greater than my greatest fear and bigger than my biggest mountain. When fear starts knocking I will no longer answer the door by myself. Let’s be #fearless!🙏🙏🙏🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏
Relationships are already difficult, but once a child is added to the mix it really gets real. It is especially difficult when one party already has a child from a previous relationship. It’s hard to find a balance when the relationship with the Mom comes to an end. Thoughts constantly race through your mind. Am I bad bad guy for giving up on the relationship…should I go back for the baby…does another man really think he’s going to raise my son?! I never knew thoughts could be so deafening. (Side note, my degree is in journalism, I’m just choosing to write this way. Makes it more dramatic and true to who I am). I honestly feel like fathers have the short end of the stick. You’re either not doing enough or trying to do too much. Let’s not talk about our
Justice System, they really favor the mother. I feel like my concerns are ignored because I don’t have the
. My constant prayer is that my son will know that his daddy truly loves him. I realize that I am his first hero!